I still remember going to the gym together at 5 o'clock in the morning. My alarm clock would go off at 4 o'clock in the morning, followed by a phone call from Anthony, making sure that I was awake and getting ready. I would sleep on the drive into the gym. But by the end of our workout and throughout the day, I appreciated that he had helped me to fit in my morning workout.

I could tell then that going to the gym was a way of life for Anthony and I knew this was something he would continue to do for the long-haul. I also thought that I was in for a lot of years of training from him (insert wink emoji).

When Anthony and I had our first child, we had a lot of adjusting to do. We had a human alarm clock that woke us both up at 3 o'clock in the morning. It was no longer two but three and then four schedules to coordinate, as we had our second child when our first was two. In the last five years, our miniature versions of ourselves coupled with growing our careers and business, have altered how we fit working out in.

We may not be able to work out together or partake in the same fitness activities as we used to, but we continue to support each other to increase the chances of either of us fitting any in.

Here are 3 suggestions for things you can do to be a supportive partner when it comes to fitness:

  • Listen – ask your partner about their fitness goals and then listen. For some, this could be a bit of a challenge. But it’s beneficial to hear their ‘why’ for a certain goal. What makes their goal to be in the gym, participate in a sports' competition important to them?
  • Ask – ask them to think of how you can be supportive of them. Whatever the case may be, be prepared to help and come to a compromise. Compromise means that neither of you may get exactly what you want, but you both get parts of what you would like.
  • Create strategies – just because you may not be able to work out together at all or as often, doesn't mean you can't help each other to find time to work out. Could you get the morning weekday routine started with the kids while your partner goes to the gym? Could you watch the kids for an hour on the weekend while your partner goes for a walk or run? Or could you take over the bath and bedtime routine or rotate? Look at each other’s schedule and find pockets of time when you both can intentionally be active.